Don't Fear the Reorganization
On storming versus thrashing, the escalation-withdrawal loop, and what it means to stay in relationship with someone while their world reorganizes.
Reflections
Essays on adaptive leadership, drawn from lived experience— coaching, parenting, and practice.
Culture Is Infrastructure
On condo boards, delegation, and why culture, transparency, and shared reasoning are part of the operating system — not the soft material surrounding it.
The Principle Has to Survive the Disagreement
On Aikido, power, and the discipline of distance — what it takes to keep a principle alive when the person in front of you makes it hard to practice.
The Moral Mirror
On recognizing the same moral principle from both sides of power, drawn from Aikido randori and a practice for building agency before we need it.
What If Most of Our Arguments Are Actually Merge Conflicts?
A GitHub metaphor for why pronouns, religion, politics, and identity are so hard to talk about—and what it might mean to see the branch we're standing on, even mid-conflict.
We Walk Together
"Don't put a saddle on a mustang" — on adaptive teaching and creating conditions for growth, drawn from lessons learned on the Aikido mat.